Unscientific Answers About True Love

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, And your voice caught within your chest?

• It isn't Love, it's Like.

You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?

• It isn't Love, it's Lust.

Are you proud, and eager to show them off?

• It isn't Love, it's Luck.

Do you want them because you know they're there?

• It isn't Love, it's Loneliness.

Are you there because it's what everyone wants?

• It isn't Love, it's Loyalty.

Do you stay for their confessions ofLove, because you don't want to hurt them?

• It isn't Love, it's Pity.

Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?

• It isn't Love, it's beingUnconfident.

Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?

• It isn't Love, it's Infatuation.

Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?

• It isn't Love, it's Friendship.

Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?

• It isn't Love, it's a Lie.

Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?

• It isn't Love, it's Charity.

Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?

• Then it's Love.

Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?

• Then it's Love.

Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?

• Then it's Love.

Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?

• Then it's Love.

Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?

• Then it's Love.

But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?

• Then it's Love.

Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?

• Then it's Love.

Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so,
why do we Love?
Why is it all we search for in life?
This pain, this agony?
Why is it all we long for?
This torture, this powerful death of self?
Why?
Because it's...
Love

Scientific Answers for WHAT IS LOVE?

Here are some things I found about what love is...

Researchers (Hatfield & Rapson, 1995) have broken up love into two main types:

Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.
Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.
Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.

The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.

Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).

Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.

Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:

Is there love at first sight?

This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.

Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?

This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.

Can their be love without sex?

Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.

Why doesn't romantic love last?

Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.

This a close friend sent me e-mail:

Infatuation vs. Love

Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."

Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning.

The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.

What Is True Love?

What is True Love?(Truth Is...)

Love is caring what you say and tempering it even when angry. Love is stronger than you, Love is smarter than you...

Love is when you feel things that you should not feel and tell your mate gently, and asking them to help you fight those feelings. Love is a friend, partner, companion and confidant.

Love is painful indeed, for love in truth means denying oneself's interests for the purpose of growth of the new being. Love is selfless and unselfish...realizing when it is not and correcting it.

Love is holding on to that which gives you the deepest comfort, the one(s)unseen by anyone else but you. Love is when you can tell yourself that pride has no place in your thoughts but only in your feelings for they that yoy feel love for.Love is bigger than you, it is better than you.

Love is having the courage to face even the most negative part(s) of yourself and fighting them, even getting your mate to aid you. Love is sharing a common goal and a common interest that interest being the success of the relationship. love is relentless, undaunted, and unceasing...

Love does not insult, does not berate or debase. Love picks up the load when you loved one is unable, knowing that your reward will come for Love is sure of it's ability and knows it will be recompensed.

Love doesn't count what it has done or what another has not, rather, love counts only the many things that it can and will do to strengthen. Love is resillient, constant; Love persists, it does not give up or out, it does not stop...

Love indeed is painful.as it requires you to let go of yourself as you know yourself to be to become a totally new creation; one of exqusite beauty and never before seen treasure. Love is precious, sacred,beyond placing of monetary value...

Love can not be touched with the hand but can touch the heart and soul, Love can change the spirit as well as the mind. Love may cloud your thoughts but it also makes it clear...if you wait for the stom to pass and the clouds to disappear...

Love can be dark, yet it shines with the brightest of light at at times illuminates the dimmest parts of oneself pulling the weeds that choke the garden of our heart. Love refines and defines, it reveals and refurbishes; but first love must wear you down before building you up, thus assuring that your respect is pure and impenetrable...

Love is a protection as it prevents you from denying, depriving, and destroying the source of your inner and lasting joy and peace, for love allows you to let down your defenses with confidence that your heart will be given the greates care. Love will defend your heart so that there's no need to be offended. It will always be there, even after you forsake it, it will give you the strength to seek it's face yet once more...

Attract Love. Be loved and Give Love Freely

I Think it's safe to say that we all want to be loved, and need more love in our lives. But finding and keeping love seems to be one of those age old mysteries.

From the time we are born, we hear the words "I love you" from our parents and other family members. And as we grow into adulthood we learn that love is something to be cherished and sought after,but it can come with consequences and be confused with other emotions.

People will often think negative thoughts about love..like "Love Hurts" or "Love is a lie." And of course thinking these types of thoughts often can lead to more of those feelings that create those thoughts, and it becomes a self sustaining cycle.

One of my favorite quotes of all time is from a MySpace comment I saw that said: "Everyone says that love hurts. But that's not true! Loneliness hurts, rejection hurts. Everyone confuses these things with love. But in reality, LOVE is the only thing in this world that covers up the pain and makes us feel wonderful again".
I am a firm believer in the "law of attraction" which is the idea that we receive whatever it is we perceive and believe in. Based on this idea, I went in search of positive ideas to fill my mind with. During that search I found this YouTube Video.

I don't think this video will summon your true love for you, but it may help you feel a bit more loved in general, and that watching this video often ...say once a week, Could help to improve your thoughts and feelings about love over time.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tj08M9X398Q&feature=player_embedded

When You're Gone..

"I always needed time on my own
I never thought I'd need you there when I cry
And the days feel like years when I'm alone
And the bed where you lie is made up on your side

When you walk away I count the steps that you take
Do you see how much I need you right now

When you're gone
The pieces of my heart are missing you
When you're gone
The face I came to know is missing too
When you're gone
The words I need to hear to always get me through the day and make it ok
I miss you

I've never felt this way before
Everything that I do reminds me of you
And the clothes you left, they lie on the floor
And they smell just like you, I love the things that you do

When you walk away I count the steps that you take
Do you see how much I need you right now

We were made for each other
Out here forever
I know we were, yeah
All I ever wanted was for you to know
Everything I'd do, I'd give my heart and soul
I can hardly breathe I need to feel you here with me"

Heart and Soul

The Heart is the symbol for love , is also where our soul lives. Heart is used to symbolize love because we feel from the heart and our soul lies hidden deep in our heart. What our heart feel we cannot lie and if our heart feel love , we could feel it beating so fast and erratic. Our true emotion come from our heart and our heart is the center of the human soul and emotion.

Often people would relate love to the heart like i pour out my heart to you and express my love and how i feel it all come from our deepest heart. Naturally matters concerning feeling and love come from the heart. It stores all the loves and emotions you feel for people you love. The Heart has long been recognized as being a symbol for love , happiness , joy and compassion.

Also an emblem of truth because it wont lie how it feel deep inside. We express our love through how we feel in our heart. Is like a love box that stores all our feelings and emotions. Inside the heart is complicated with many veins that run blood to all parts of our body. Only the heart could be able to handle such complicated things like emotion and love that we feel deep inside and how it transmits out to our love ones. The brain is for thinking and the heart is to feel and is stronger and deeper then the brain.The brain is for rationale thinking and deep thought and the heart is to feel and is more impulsive because sometimes we cant control how we feel if that what our heart tell us.

Recent studies show that there is some truth that our souls are deeply connected to some part of our organs especially the heart. There are cases where patients had the heart transplant and they feel different after that for instance they never like classical music and after the transplant they find that they love classical music , it has been said that they might have taken the liking from the person who gave them the heart. Our thoughts and habits could change because is no longer our own heart but the heart of another person. Like a new soul entering the body.

Most often when a person in love would know it because the heart feels and beats so fast they could almost hear it or when they met someone for the first time and feel attracted to the person their heart would also be beating so loud and fast and they know it instantly is love at first sight.Is a natural reaction of human emotion that felt deep in the heart. If we could not feel love in our heart or if we let our heart become harden because of passed hurt or disappointment then our heart would not want to feel and become cold then life would be meaningless without any emotion felt from the heart. Is like a walking corpse without heart and soul to sustain them then it would be like nothing to live for since you cant feel any love in your heart. Our heart would feel so happy when we love and be loved by others.

Without love in our heart , we would not exist. Same goes for love , without love we die a slow death and life will be miserable. The heart and love are both integrated together . The shaped of the heart is like two persons joining to form a sacred heart to love one another for eternity.